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Western Carolinian Volume 67 Number 15

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  • november 13-19, 2002 4 newsma azine .American pop culture sends the message that girls need to be slender, tall, in shape, intelligent, quiet, ambitious yet submissive, experienced yet pure. By: L. Danelle Nicholson I WCnewsmagazine Growing up as girls in America, we strive to be "normal." We constantly question our actions; looks, thoughts - everythingßve do. Then we compare that to what we see around us. What is the average girl expected to be? This is a question that plagues many ofu's during high school and, more often than not, follows us into•our college years and beyond. Our American culture uses many outlets to get the idea of the "perfect girl" across. This ideological girl is in all subcultures, so this is an issue that breaks down all racial and social barriers. She has existed throughout history, though her qualities have changed with the changing times. In "Professions for Women," Virginia Woolf talks a lot about the "angel of the house." Woolf tells her audience how the angel is perfect — everything the Victorian woman is called on to be. The angel is "Intensely sympathetic... immensely charming... [and] utterly unselfish. She excelled in the difficult art of family life. She sacrificed herself daily.. .Above all — I need not say it — she was pure." This makes Woolf sick. She talks about what the angel told her she should be like. "My dear, you are a young woman. You are writing about a book that has been written by a man. Be sympathetic; be tender; flatter; deceive; use the arts and wiles of our sex. Never let anyone guess you have a mind of your own. Above all, be pure." Woolf goes on to tell us that getting rid of this angel was the only option; Virginia Woolf had to kill it. The angel would have eventually taken her identity and killed her writing. Woolf says if she was called to defend her actions, she would simply say that, "1 acted in self-defense. Had I not killed her she would have killed me. She would have plucked the heart right out of my writing." Today, girls and women go through the same thing, only with different expectations. American pop culture sends the message that girls need to be slender, tall, in shape, intelligent, quiet, ambitious yet submissive, experienced yet pure. In other words, we need to be perfect. A girl could go crazy trying to be all those things! This "ideal" girl, however, does not exist; she is simply a common fantasy. When I was in high school, all I wanted to do was fit in. However, my personality and body type clashed with this American ideal. I have never been known to be quiet or submissive. I am not vertically challenged. However, I stand at an average 5'6, so I'm not very tall either. I was never interested in being fit or working out. I hated PE; the only sport I liked was swimming (and that was because I could float). At the time, I was slender, but because of people thinner than me (my best friend was a size zero through 1 Ith grade), I thought that I was always fat, doomed to be an outcast, never to be accepted by any people other than my parents. (This has a traumatic affect on a girl's self-esteem.) I was raised with religion, so of course I could not become experienced in anything, because it was wrong. When I became a senior, I finally found a group who wanted a girl like the one I was trying to be, so I fit right in. Of course, those friends didn't ever get to know the real me, they just knew what I was trying to be. They let me "free" myself of the burdens of being a church girl, the girl my parents had raised me to be, and indulge in the experiences of life. Since I had friends, though, I didn't care. I came to college, and it was a completely different story. Everyone saw through my charade. I had no friends, which was about two less than I had through most of high school. I was miserable. At the lowest point in my life, I looked up and saw that not only did I need God - I needed an identity. I could not find myself in this maze of contradictory expectations. Once I started being me, people didn't hate me. In fact, I now have more friends than I could have ever dreamed of having. These are people that know the real me and love me anyway. I went through all of this to say this: in the end, it doesn't matter whether you were prom queen or social outcast. Be yourself— that's all that you can be.
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