Aria Ashburn calls herself a gender queer trans-woman with non-binary aspects of her identity, but also discusses the importance of not worrying too much about labels. She talks about being bullied and suppressing her feelings as a child and about coming out while an undergrad at Western Carolina University. She shares her experience returning home after graduation and how it felt to go back in the closet and how it led to a stronger coming out experience when she returned to Western to pursue her Master's degree. She talks about the process of making the difficult decision to come out to her family and about her mother's reaction and their relationship now. Ashburn discusses the flaws in the preferred name system at Western.